Toxic Relationship & Gaslighting Test
Is this relationship hurting more than it helps?
Published by the Healthio+ editorial team · Based on A red-flag checklist drawn from clinical patterns of emotional abuse, control, and gaslighting (including DARVO).
How we build our tests →Think about a specific relationship — a partner, friend, or family member. Answer how often each happens. This is a reflection tool, not a verdict on any person. Nothing you enter is saved or linked to you.
This is a screening tool, not a diagnosis. Results are for self-reflection only. Only a licensed professional can diagnose a condition.
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About the Toxic Relationship & Gaslighting Test
This test is a free, anonymous online screening you can complete in about three minutes. It has 12 questions and is adapted from A red-flag checklist drawn from clinical patterns of emotional abuse, control, and gaslighting (including DARVO). Your answers are scored privately in your browser — nothing is saved or linked to you — and you get an instant result framed for self-reflection rather than as a diagnosis.
Who is this test for?
Anyone who has been noticing these feelings or patterns and wants a structured, private way to reflect on them. It's a starting point for people wondering whether what they're experiencing is worth paying attention to — not a way to label or diagnose yourself. It is not suitable for anyone in crisis or in need of urgent help — if that's you, please contact your local emergency services or a crisis line right away.
How to read your results
Few red flags (score 0–8)
This relationship doesn't show many of these warning signs. No relationship is perfect, and occasional friction is normal.
Some red flags (score 9–20)
There are some concerning patterns here worth paying attention to. Trust what you feel, and consider talking it through with someone you trust.
Many red flags (score 21–36)
This relationship shows many signs of emotional abuse and control. You deserve to feel safe and respected. Please consider reaching out for support — in the US you can call or text the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or contact a local equivalent.
Where this test comes from
This screening is adapted from A red-flag checklist drawn from clinical patterns of emotional abuse, control, and gaslighting (including DARVO). We keep the original questions and validated scoring intact and add plain-language explanations of what each result means. You can read our full process, including how we handle sources and sensitive topics, in how we build our tests.
What to do with your result
Whatever your result, treat it as information, not a verdict. If it resonates, it can be a useful thing to bring to a doctor or mental-health professional — they can see the full picture a short questionnaire can't. Feelings and circumstances change, so retaking the test after a few weeks can also show whether things are shifting over time.
Frequently asked questions
Is the Toxic Relationship & Gaslighting Test free?
Yes — completely free. No signup, no email, and no paywall. Healthio+ currently carries no advertising at all.
Is this test anonymous, and is my data saved?
It's fully anonymous. Your answers are scored entirely in your browser and are never sent to us or stored anywhere. We keep only an anonymous count of how many people take each test, plus which browser family was used and which site you arrived from — never who took it or how they answered.
Is this test a diagnosis?
No. This is a screening tool for self-reflection, not a medical or psychological diagnosis. No online test can diagnose you. If your result resonates, consider speaking with a qualified doctor or mental-health professional.
How long does this test take?
About three minutes. It has 12 questions and gives you an instant result the moment you finish.
What is this test based on?
A red-flag checklist drawn from clinical patterns of emotional abuse, control, and gaslighting (including DARVO).